if i post to this blog it's a mistake. why the fuck do posts from the main blog show on the dashboard????? who's fucking idea was that?????????? THIS BLOG IS NOT ACTIVE
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in addition to the fact that people just have different natural rhythms, a big reason why we can’t seem to go to bed as early as we “should” is that nighttime is, for many of us, our safest and most fulfilling time of day. we don’t have to work, we won’t be contacted by bosses or insurance companies or collection agencies or other suffocating life business… we’re likely only to be contacted by our friends, or by no one at all. night time is release; it’s ours. we can rest or recreate. we can do things we actually want to do. who would choose to cut that short?? just to usher in the next morning when our lives are not our own again? nighttime is precious and nothing could be more normal than the desire to embrace this
So, y’all remember that post that said animals in urban areas slowly became nocturnal to avoid encounters with humans? Apparently that includes humans.
one of the most important things, perhaps the most important thing I have learned in my life is that nice people can fuck each other up in monstrous ways. people can be bone deep kind and loving and self reflective and still lash out under pressure. people can be earnestly neighbourly and charitable and hospitable and generous and still find themselves in situations where they become selfish. people can be well meaning and easygoing and gregarious and hold deep seated opinions that turn them into vicious little bullies under the right conditions. nobody is just one thing, and nobody stays one way. every person is a kaleidoscope and they will surprise you. you will surprise yourself. it’s not a warning and it’s not a judgement and it’s not an excuse, and it’s certainly not a reason to stop trying or to stop trusting. it is just a fact.
one of my favourite things about tumblr is how it’s all lovingly handpicked. there’s no algorithm forcing things onto your feed, but instead long chains of mutuals and followers passing posts around simply because they liked it and ooh, maybe you might like it too. the entire website runs on people’s sheer love of other people’s posts and it’s probably the best thing about this website. at least it’s definitely the reason that this place feels more like a community than any other social media.
Uhh, well, sort of?…
Tumblr does have algorithms. But if you’re old school, you turned them off when they showed up. Unfortunately, over time, new people might not know about them. I’m not certain which is the case with this post?
Regardless, if you go into Settings > Dashboard Preferences you can turn off the algorithms. The main algorithm is your basic non-linear “what tumblr thinks you should see” feed. Yes, it’s of people you follow? But it still leaves the ability to throttle certain posts Tumblr might hope you don’t see to the bottom of your non-linear feed.
The second and third are more harmless, randomly inserting posts from tags you track into your feed, but clearly labeled as such. So it’s something you might enjoy or not.
Really we need to share this info more regularly, so as time goes by, new people know that they’re in a non-linear algorithm feed of the people they follow, like Instagram or Twitters “home” mode.
Don’t return ebooks or audiobooks you’ve consumed on Amazon and Audible
Amazon and Audible made it into their policy that you can return ebooks and audiobooks and get a full refund.
They actively promote this, making their book shop into a book lending service, de facto a library you subscribe to. That’s their business plan to encourage subscribtions.
The dirty thing, however, is that Amazon and Audible are making the authors pay for each refunded item. They will detract money, income, royalties, from the authors’ account. They’re not hurting from the refund, the author is.
Look, no-one is saying you’re not allowed to return an item if you’ve read the first 50 pages or listened to the first 45 minutes. Maybe the style is not your thing. Maybe you don’t like the narrator’s voice. Maybe the quality of the writing drops severely after chapter three. Go ahead, if the product is bad, return it.
What I’m talking about is that no one should be able to listen to a ten-hour audiobook or read through nearly an entire novel and still get a refund.
Most of the readers don’t know who’s paying for this business plan. It’s not Amazon and Audible, they’re still keeping your subscription money. It’s the authors.
Spread the word.
Yeah, in all honesty, I would legit rather you pirate my series than do this.
I had someone read and then return the entirety of one of my series last month, and I don’t make enough from my books for that sudden loss of income to not be noticeable. So, I was going ahead going “oh, okay, when Amazon pays out for this month, I will make X amount, which means I can afford Y”, and then in one day, there was a significant drop from someone returning an entire series.
Like, I need to be able to plan ahead when it comes to my income, so honestly, if your plan is to buy and then return my series as a way to get it for free, please just pirate it instead of fucking me about. Or, you know, join my beta/ARC team or wait for me to make the series Pay-What-You-Want on my website. Or, hell, get it from your local library! It’s not like I don’t make it easy to get my books for free/cheap…
Reblogging again because I just woke up to “you have earned negative money so far this month” which is just a super great way to start the month… /s
You shouldn’t be treating nb people like the secret sexy 3rd gender. Nb people don’t look like a mash of male and female, they’re not sexy androgynous twinks
white skinny androgynous nb people reblogging this and saying shit like “Well this is what I look like! So I feel represented!” Are literally part of the problem. I’m not saying that no nb people are white/skinny/andro, I’m saying that those are the only type of nb bodies that get represented
its nice, isnt it, when nonbinary people are visibly distinct from binary people? its easy, isnt it? you can remember to use “they” for people who have no visible breasts or beards, right? no need to challenge the notion of male vs female if nonbinary people have their own look, isnt that right?
its time to step the fuck up and really understand that nonbinary looks like anybody. nonbinary looks like you. nonbinary looks like your family and friends and it looks like the strangers who you thoughtlessly call “he” or “she” because of their appearance.
really supporting nonbinary people means understanding that theres no visual tell - you wont recognise all of us as nonbinary on sight. you have to actually LISTEN to us. you have to BELIEVE us. and it means challenging your assumptions about gender, starting with the assumption that youre an ally to trans people while youre still doing puerile shit like gendering body parts and clothes.
NONBINARY LOOKS LIKE ANYBODY. ANY BODY CAN BE NONBINARY.
Huh maybe autistic people are seen as gullible bc we grow up being told our perception of the world is wrong so we’re filled with so much self doubt that we believe everyone else over ourselves
You’re correct, I think.
The gullibility is part of it, but it cuts even deeper.
“I keep hearing sounds that nobody else can hear, so maybe I’m imagining things? Why do I do that? What’s wrong with me?”
“This physically hurts me, but everyone tells me that’s impossible and my teacher even punished me for telling lies, so I guess I really did make it up.”
“I really want to do this thing but I can’t because it feels like there’s an invisible wall weighing me down and my brain won’t do what I tell it to, but my parents said that’s just laziness and that I should build some character and just do it, so I guess I really am lazy.”
(Fictional quotes based on an amalgam of things I’ve actually heard people say.)
Is anyone really surprised we don’t trust our gut feeling any more or have trouble getting medical help?
So this popped up on my dash again and I know it’s been ages since I wrote this addition to the original post but I still fucking stand by it. That autistic gullibility everyone talks about? There’s no way that’s not at least partly fuelled by being gaslit from an early age on about a large part of our experiences.
The more I learn about autism and trauma, the more I’m convinced the current view of autism is largely informed by trauma in autistic people.
A note for people about Tumblr tagging and visibility; Tumblr’s tagging system has been changing from what it used to be. It used to be that you could
Put filler tags for the top 5 tags to avoid a post being collected
Put a fandom tag sandwiched as part of a conversational tag (ie: “I’m thinking about Mad Max Fury Road”) and the post wouldn’t be collected by the search system
Tumblr has now changed it so that any tags applied to a reblog can be viewed by the OP/anyone else.
The changes I’ve also noticed are that:
“the first 20 tags on a post will show up in searches” according to the tags FAQ
Additionally, they seem to have changed it so that long tags / “commentary” tags with a specific “main tag” in it will still show up in searches. Going back to my above example: “I’m thinking about Mad Max Fury Road” might show up in the main Mad Max Fury Road tag, especially if my blog is marked as visible in search results.
These changes could make your posts more visible / subject to attention than you had expected or wanted.
Many of us on Tumblr are used to having certain thoughts, asides, and commentary as semi-private when we share it in the tags. Those features are changing, but our habits aren’t necessarily keeping up. If you’re sharing personal thoughts or opinions for a fandom, as an example, they may show up in the main tag for the fandom, pairing, or character if you apply tags as mentioned above. This is more of a note for folks who are wanting to retain a little more privacy; it’s still possible to get clever (ie: come up with a consistent interior tagging system / set of alternative tags that won’t get your personal posts shoved into the main searchable tags).
the most foolproof way of making sure your posts don’t show up in the tags is to put a hyperlink in it, or tag it with a forbidden word like “nsfw” or even just “fuck” lmao. that’ll hide your post from all searches i think?
